How to Grieve in 7 Steps…

The “7 Steps” is based on a book written by Bill Plotkin in 2003.

Here is a brief description of how it works…

Step One:

You will need to prepare your personal space for enlightenment.·      

• Use some candles;      

• Have as little artificial light as possible;

• Instrumental music in the background helps…but not loud;

These conditions will create a special place for tears to grow and flow. Choosing a natural setting would be better, if you can manage it.

Step Two:

You need to clearly identify the main reason or reasons that you are feeling this grief.

Step Three:

You need to give a name to the main feelings and emotions you are going through.

Step Four:

You will need to find a way to express your gratitude…for love, forgiveness and the goodbyes associated with your grieving situation.

“Say the difficult and important things previously unsaid” Bill Plotkin.

A little gem to think about, if your grief involves someone who is still living… “you may or may not visit with each person in the flesh, but you will certainly have many poignant and emotional encounters ” Plotkin.

Step Five:

It will help to write letters and poems, paint expressive paintings and to use physical symbols like toys or objects from nature…it could be rocks, leaves, sticks…anything that will help you externalise those inner feelings that are deeply buried inside your heart. Ask me more about this...

Step Six:

Whatever you choose to do, during your own personal grief ritual, you need to know this…“At the bottom of those grief waters lies a treasure, the source of man’s greater life.” Yes, Plotkin again with a message of hope!

The intention and the belief of a Greater Source of Life will be of extreme importance in the whole Grieving Process. Keeping that in mind is really essential, hence the advantage of having an experienced Professional helping you take these steps through your grieving space.

Step Seven:

The last and most important of these seven steps is to allow yourself the time and space for daily meditation.

“It develops the alertness of a centred mind, the ability to stay focussed and calmly present…you might begin with twenty minutes, sitting with your spine erect and steadily attending to your breath, both the inspirations and the expirations, perhaps counting the breaths and then repeating. When you notice your attention has drifted away, gently return to your breath ” Plotkin.